So, you found a pair of panties in the glove-box of your car. They aren’t yours, they’re not your style, they’re too small etc…. either your husband is having an affair or….they are his panties. Either way, you want to know. Are you ready to open that can of worms? Are you ready for the answer?

When you need to know the truth, hiring a private investigator might be the answer. This is not something to take lightly. You have two outcomes, he’s cheating (or likes to wear panties), or he’s not cheating. Either outcome will hurt- if he’s not cheating, then their are some serious trust issues.

There are a few things to consider when hiring a private eye. What is your purpose? Are you doing it to gather legal evidence for court? Once you gather your evidence and find out he is cheating, what will you do with it? Will you confront him? File for divorce? Take him to court? You need to be clear with what you want to accomplish before you take this important and costly step, hiring a private investigator.

If your purpose is to gather evidence for court, make sure the private investigator you hire has experience in this area and knows what can and cannot hold up in a court of law in your state.

Why would you hire an investigator instead of doing it on your own? Well, first of all, they are the experts. They have the investigative tools to do the job right. They are licensed by the state to do what they do best- surveillance and gathering information. If the reason for gathering evidence is to show proof in a court of law, then you want a professional that knows what he/she’s doing. You want evidence that will hold up in the court of law according to the state you are in and minimize the risk of it being thrown out. The PI knows what is legal.

The private investigator you hire should have years of experience and specialized training. Having the experience and the specialized training, they will be much better at collecting evidence than you are; they will not be emotionally involved and they can be more objective of the situation and circumstances.

You also need to do your due diligence when hiring a private investigator. You need to find one with a solid background and someone who has had experience, especially for the investigation you are hiring them for- you don’t want an armchair private investigator. Private investigators can specialize in a wide range of areas. You want to find one that specializes in infidelity. You want the correct evidence collected and you want to make sure you are not wasting your money or time.

In most states, licensing of a private investigator is mandatory. Find out what the laws are in your state and make sure the investigator you hire is following the laws. Make sure the PI you hire has the required amount of insurance. This will protect you from potential liability while the PI is working on your case. Accidents happen and you need to be protected in case those accidents lead to a lawsuit or criminal charges.

The cost of a private investigator varies from one PI to the next, depending on their areas of expertise, years of experience, types of service requested and the state and city you are in. No matter the cost, you have the right to ask for prices up front and referrals from past clients. Shop around, don’t settle, this is a life and a marriage, and might involve children, that you need to take into account.

There are many ways to go about catching a cheater. If you choose to do it yourself, you can go snooping around- your emotions getting in the way and confront your husband with the evidence you have collected. If you confront him prematurely, and he was having an affair, you have tipped your hat and he might take the affair even further underground and you’re taking the chance that the evidence you found will be admissible in court.

If you confront him and find out he has a reasonable explanation about the evidence you collected, you have more than tipped your hat. You have possibly ruined your marriage and there is no going back.

So, whether they were someone else’s panties, his panties or a gift he was going to surprise you with—when you open that can of worms, there is no putting them back.

Make sure you know the truth, hire a professional- a state licensed private investigator. By using a licensed private investigator, you have a better chance of avoiding these mistakes. Private Investigators have the tools and experience to gather the evidence, with an unbiased and unemotional “private eye”.